Cool equals Confident and Content

in Who You Are

 

Find a hairstyle that doesn’t need any care.  People with confidence have a hairstyle that doesn’t need any attention all day long.  Fiddling with hair all the time can be perceived as lack of self-confidence.  Even when it isn’t, that’s how people think.

 

Never wear clothes that have to be adjusted all day.  If a shirt or skirt only looks good if its rolled up, pulled down a certain way and you have to look in the mirror to get it exactly right, you’ll be tugging and pulling and rolling all day and afraid that the adjustment (safety pins or whatever) is going to show.  You’ll worry any time there’s not a mirror around and anytime you go to the bathroom, you’ll have to adjust it all over again.  If it doesn’t look right when you first put it on, don’t buy it.  If it can’t be worn without adjusting it, don’t wear it.

 

Arrive first everywhere. Find a seat somewhere in the middle.  As more people come in, they will gradually sit near you.  If you sit in the corner, the next new kid will sit in the opposite corner out of shyness.  If you sit in the front, the next one sits in the back.  If you sit in the middle, you’ll always have someone around you.  Trust that if you arrive first, a friendly person will come up to you as they walk in.  Maybe a very shy person will come in and you can be the one to make them feel welcomed.  It’s a good way to make friends, reaching out to someone instead of waiting for someone to come and talk to you.

 

Smile and say hi to everyone.  Don’t choose a group that’s hard to break into and then feel you don’t fit in because you probably don’t fit in with them.  Choose a group of kids that welcomes people, is friendly to everyone and then you will fit in.  Being friendly is easy to fit in to. Being snobby or cool, or a group that is small and elite, isn’t what you want anyway.